Even though my mom keeps her hands glued to her phone and on Facebook reposting ancient stories and commenting on silly memes, she never answers her phone. She texts back days later and should never be listed as your emergency contact. She’s often annoyed when you don’t return her calls or answer when she calls. Imagine the nerve!
On a rare occasion this past week, we connected. When we do talk, we often delve off into spiritual conversations and trade law of attraction stories. On this convo we talked about how people often place so many limitations (that’s the L word by the way) on themselves and others.
It’s kind of been a running theme within my conversations the past few weeks, so I’ve been paying particular attention to how I often place limitations on myself and others based on past experiences. As I type this, I’m in an Uber listening to the driver talk about all the fears and limitations that she can imagine. She’s even placing limitations on the stop lights! 😬 It’s common and often runs on autopilot. But I realize that this shit has to stop in my life in order for me to be greater!
But I digress. So my mom was telling me how important it was for her to instill learning and education into me as a child. She read books on parenting and put me into Montessori school and made sure she read to me and we played educational games often. I can remember these experiences and they obviously have shaped me. What I didn’t know that she shared with me, is that as a child I tested “off the charts” and my teachers suggested to her that I be moved ahead and skip 2-3 grade levels. I couldn’t believe it and asked her why she didn’t allow me to do that! She said she was worried (limit) that it would be too much for me (limit) and she wanted me to graduate with my friends (limit) and I wouldn’t be able to handle it (limit).
That’s the thing with limitations, they come from a good place and often provide genuine concerns, but they can keep you, your money, and your life mediocre and basic. The flip side of limitations is, those things you’re worried about could possibly never, ever happen. What if I could have handled the grade jumps? What if it wouldn’t have been “too much” for me? And what if I would have made even more friends?
If you’re used to accepting the limitations others have had for you, you may still see them play out in your life on a daily basis. For instance, there was a time when my income was stuck at a certain amount and I simply could not exceed it. I’d obviously set a limit on the amount of money that I thought I could make and believed that amount was it. I often found myself saying things were “expensive” (limit) or that I couldn’t afford this (limit) or I was too broke for that (limit). So no wonder my income wouldn’t budge.
Someone very close to me once corrected my limited talk with a perfect rebuttal: “Don’t put limitations on my life!” And that has become a reminder and automatic reply when someone attempts to place limits on me or when I’m placing them on myself or others.
As with anything that needs to be improved, you first have to know and accept that there is room for improvement. You have to know your own limitations and be open to receiving help and assistance if your struggles are out of your scope of expertise. As we approach a new year, I want to encourage you to remove the limitations you’ve carried on your life and get the help you need. Take your money, your life, and your whole world to the next level. You deserve it!
If you need help with your money, I’m here, with no judgement, no pressure, and absolutely no limitations! Let’s get it!